When faced, quite literally, with a major decision that would affect the quality of her life and, well, her face for at least a year, Lorna had some questions she needed answers to.
Sitting in the dentist’s chair (I guess that would be the patient’s chair) with my mouth agape (nothing unusual in that setting) at the news that I needed braces to fix my catastrophomouth, I had some questions. Ish kine off har ta ash queshons wif dis sing in ma mouf.
Well, the questions came after I stopped hyperventilating and could focus on something other than my grandmother’s dentures bathing in a glass beside her bed. I don’t ever want my teeth greeting me when I wake up. I don’t care if they’re smiling.
Competing for importance in my newly cleared, but still dizzy, head were three major concerns (listed here in no particular order):
1. How much will braces hurt my already highly sensitive mouth?
2. How much will braces hurt my already highly sensitive bank account?
3. How ugly will braces make me for how long?
I wasn’t concerned about exactly how the braces worked, how they went on, how my dental hygiene might be affected with all that jagged metal in my mouth, or kissing. I could Google those details later. Or not.
Typical of all medical professionals, politicians, and hedge fund managers, ask a direct question and get an answer as slippery as a Jello Shooter.
Not wanting to sound tacky or insensitive, I asked the money question first. I prefaced it with my concern that I was retired due to a disability and was on a fixed income. Pity points are still points when you’re talking money, People.
“How much is this going to cost me?”
“It depends.”
“On what?”
“I have to take some special x-rays, create a mold of your mouth, and need several photographs. After I see what we’re dealing with, I can give you a firm price.”
After I heard “special x-rays” the rest of what she said was dulled out by a distinct cha-ching, cha-ching, cha-ching sound.
“Can you give me a ballpark number?” I needed something to go on.
She wrinkled her nose behind her mask, tipped her head to the right, and said, “No more than $2,500 for the upper teeth.” She quickly added, “And your bottom teeth look fine.”
“That’s good.”
My next question was about how painful braces are.
“It depends.”
“On what?”
“On your individual sensitivity, on how much we need to move your teeth, on the kinds of foods you eat. There are so many factors. I’ve had braces twice. When they are initially put on and when they are adjusted each month, they’re pretty uncomfortable for a few days, but ibuprofen works great. After that, you get used to them and won’t even know that they’re there.”
Once I heard “individual sensitivity,” my heartbeat increased in volume from barely noticeable to the thruuump, thruuump, thruump of one of those ginormous bass drums that the nerdy, but proud, kid plays in the marching band.
I had a feeling that, being a Highly Sensitive Person, braces would rise to the level of more than uncomfortable on the Mr. Sad Face Scale used in most emergency rooms.
Finally, I got to the vanity question.
“I don’t recommend the clear braces for adults. They are significantly more expensive and the results are disappointing. Metal braces simply work better for adult teeth that are harder to move.”
“Um. Okay. How long will I have to wear them.”
“It depends.”
“On what?”
“On how quickly your teeth respond to the adjustments. I would estimate about a year. Maybe a little more given how much it looks like some of your teeth have to move back to be in alignment. I’ll know more after I see the x-rays, cast, and pictures.”
“I see.” I didn’t, but it seemed like the adult thing to say.
“Do you have any more questions?”
I did. “I’m going to be 56 years old. Am I too old for braces?” It was a silly question. It was the equivalent of asking a car dealer if you need a new car or a cosmetic surgeon if you need Botox.
“Of course not! Roughly half of my ortho patients are adults. Everyone wants to have a beautiful smile, no matter what their age. I just put braces on a man who was in his late 60s.”
“Half, huh? That surprises me.”
“Just start looking around. You’ll notice a lot of adults with braces. You’ll see them if you’re looking for them.” So it’s kind of like when you buy a pimptacular sporty white car and. like, everyone seems to have one just like yours?
So I started looking at people’s mouths. Stop calling me. I know! I know! I should never have asked everyone to smile and say “cheese!” at your husband’s funeral.
Stay tuned to find out what I discovered about my adult braces and how staring at peoples’ mouths is not socially appropriate behavior even if your dentist tells you to do it.




Nov 20, 2013 @ 12:43:14
If this were cosmetic, I wouldn’t do it. Not on your life…or mine. I haven’t cried yet, but I have my first “adjustment” coming up next week. Yikes!
Nov 20, 2013 @ 08:07:47
If only one of my daughters had complained about the pain the braces were giving them I’d have thought they were looking to get out of responsibilities or stay home from school. but … they really complained and cried. I felt really badly about it. Unfortunately, it wasn’t cosmetic. It was necessary or they would have issues as adults. I guess that’s why they do it when they’re young.
Good Luck with adjusting. Hope it happens real soon. xoxo
Nov 18, 2013 @ 14:13:53
If this were purely a vanity issue, I wouldn’t have done it. I was afraid that my teeth would collapse or move to a different neighborhood. It will be nice to have a smile with straight teeth, but the important thing is that they will all be in the correct places.
Now, the whitening the dentist talked about…that’s a horse (and horse’s teeth) of an entirely different color! 😉
Nov 18, 2013 @ 14:09:46
Having experienced these braces for about three weeks, I’d say that your kids were telling you the truth. If they were seeking sympathy, it’s because they needed it!
Yes, everyone is different and some teeth need to be moved more than others. Some teeth are harder to move–like old teeth. All I know is that I haven’t gotten used to them yet, and the dentist assured me that I would get used to them “in a few days.” 😐
Nov 16, 2013 @ 13:10:26
Oh my, the things we need to endure. My sister-in-law was told she needed braces but her husband said – WHAT !!!! – and she said yoou’re right 74 is way too old. LOL
You’re not. You’ve got a whole bunch of eating left to do. hahaha
Good Luck feeling good while you have them on. My kids – all 3 – had them and bit-hed all of the time about pain. BUT … everyones different and just maybe there was some sympathy seeking involved. ~~~~ : – )
Nov 16, 2013 @ 12:50:53
Mmm Braces. You’d be a brave lady to have them, but then you probably are. I don’t think I could handle them, so I just avoid smiling at strangers. Those who know me, know too much about me already to worry about my teeth
Nov 15, 2013 @ 21:08:58
Ouch this makes me squirm just thinking about it ….
Nov 15, 2013 @ 11:42:22
Thanks for sharing your story with me. It helps. That’s why I’m sharing mine. Others must have gone through or are facing similar teeth-related issues. If you know me at all, you know I’m always ready and willing to put my life out there in an honest and light-hearted way if it can help even one person not feel so all alone. 🙂
Nov 14, 2013 @ 18:29:01
I got braces when faced with a choice of the dentist breaking my jaw due to TMJ headaches or braces. I chose the four years of pain but don’t think it was too bad at the age of 30. I am not sure what I would do at my age! I do invest in caps or crowns when my teeth fall out rather than dentures. My Mom got them at age 40, bad teeth heridity! Take care and best wishes on your mouth and in your decision making, Lorna!!
Nov 13, 2013 @ 10:46:11
There you go! And think what fun you can have answering anyone who asks why you’re wearing them, ‘To keep my pants up, of course!’ or ‘I prefer them to a belt!’
Nov 13, 2013 @ 09:51:35
And to think, it all started with a simple check-up and cleaning… Well, that and I figured that this would make an excellent addendum to my memoir.
I’m sorry that teeth are a sore subject for you, U. Just another thing for us to commiserate about. Trust me, they are a very sore subject for me, as well.
Nov 13, 2013 @ 09:48:04
I suppose there is always a silver lining–especially now when I smile. 😉
Nov 13, 2013 @ 09:47:07
Yes, tell me about it. I keep thinking, “I could have spent this money on an editor for my novel…” 😐
Nov 13, 2013 @ 09:45:58
Thanks, Al. I know that there are plenty of people in Blog Land and in Book Land who write about their experiences with things like this. I want my story to reflect the reality of my experience but be entertaining, too. There is enough serious shizzle out there to fill a black hole. I know that people considering adult braces look to see if other adults their age have them. I know they do! But who writes about that part of the journey? Well I do! 🙂 And it ain’t always pretty…
Nov 13, 2013 @ 09:41:41
I’m getting there, George! I’m telling the story chronologically and, while I have the braces on now, I haven’t gotten them yet in the telling of the tale. In the next post or the one after that, everyone (who cares to) will see me in all of my metallic glory. 😉
Nov 13, 2013 @ 09:39:52
I’m trying to keep things light-hearted, just like my memoir. 🙂 Will I accomplish that goal? It depends! 😉
Nov 13, 2013 @ 04:11:20
On what? it depends, whether I write a comment or not, okay why is that? it depends, I think being a guy looking for people wearing braces is safer than looking at parts of bodies. If you approach your new braces the way you write it will be a doddle. 😉
Nov 12, 2013 @ 21:36:46
What the heck? Give us a photo of your teeth and we’ll vote. 😉
Nov 12, 2013 @ 18:17:54
Finally, a blog with some teeth to it. C’mon, you knew that was coming…… it is your old pal, Al, after all.
You are still far and away the funniest autobiographer in the realm. It’s a little macabre looking forward to stories about someone’s misfortune, but you make them so deliciously funny.
And though I’m not a licensed dentist, I’m already bracing myself for the next installment.
Nov 12, 2013 @ 18:14:53
It all sounds too familiar, especially the cash register sound.
Nov 12, 2013 @ 17:41:47
I had to ‘Like’ this post because there was no ‘It depends’ button! 🙂
*encouragingly* Think how handy the Hannibal Lektor look will be for Halloween next year!
Nov 12, 2013 @ 17:05:35
My heart goes out to you, Lorna. Only because it’s you. I think it pitiful – as I believe we have established before – that someone at your age has to return to the torture of teens. My teeth are straight though my dentist informs me that I clearly grind my teeth during my sleep. Wearing thin. Whatever. So there is your brace vs my tooth guard. Not that I wear it. Not even in the dark. If my teeth want to grind – let them. I am a no nonsense person and if my front teeth have no sense of survival so be it. Let’s see where that gets them.
Wish you hadn’t started the subject.
U