Do you remember that light-hearted classic, The Scarlet Letter? Naughty Hester wore a red “A” displayed on every piece of clothing she owned (roughly 3 garments) to broadcast to everyone in her village (roughly 30 people) that a married man lusted after her. His lapels were “A-less.” Stitchery and shame were quite popular among Puritan women. Lusting after women and passing judgement on lust-worthy women were manly pursuits. If you missed the book or the movie, I just saved you time and points in trivia games involving literature. (NOTE: I probably missed some important details and skewed a few plot lines, but so did the movie.)
The Scarlet Letter stood for “adulter” not “awesome.” It was a way of stigmatizing women in the hopes that they would stop teasing weak, married men who couldn’t control themselves around all those corsets and layers of heavy fabric covering women from neck to toe.
I’m feeling stigmatized by some people in my Village, but not for the reason Hester was. I should use my quilter’s skills and fashion a bright, bold “B” to pin on my garments. The “B” stands for Blogger and is the Scarlet Letter’s Kissing Cousin (being so close to “A”). My Village assumes I’ve gone to the “B” Dark Side along with legions of others who waste their time in front of a computer screen when they could be doing something productive like watching Reality TV or playing bingo.
Here’s how I know I was Hester’s cyber-hussy equivalent:
- When I talk about writing, my Villagers lean in; when I talk about blogging, my Villagers slowly back away with worried expressions;
- My Villagers express concern that I’m becoming one of “those people” who spend all their time on the computer, develop agoraphobia, and paste newspaper clippings of government conspiracies over my walls (which is totally unlikely because I don’t read the newspaper).
- Regardless of my explanations about how blogging is an effective way to get my writing “out there,” Villagers seem suspicious–like I’m justifying my obsession with World of Warcraft 4.2.
A few of my Villagers, like a few of Hester’s friends, support me. But, by and large, my Villagers think blogging is just like cruising online porn sites–a terrible waste of human potential and will ultimately lead to trouble.
Labels are dangerous. Once affixed (like the “A” or “B”) they are loaded with meaning that is impossible to sway. Perhaps I need another word for “blogging” that my Villagers would accept as productive and appropriate for a 53-year-old former sociology professor.
Technotyping (TTing)? “I spent 4 hours ‘Ta-Tinging’ today. It was great!”
WebPublishing (WPing)? “Wait just a minute, I have to finish ‘Wee-Pinging.'” “‘Wa-Pinging?'”
InteractiveWriting (IWing?) “If I care about it, I-Wing it!”
I don’t know, perhaps it’s time for my needle and thread …




Aug 01, 2011 @ 10:39:50
Come to think of it, if I wore a big “B” on my chest, I may get way more attention than I want and for a very different reason…I need to think this through a bit more!
Thanks for reminding me that if someone is laughing at me, they are leaving someone someone else alone!
Aug 01, 2011 @ 09:26:25
Lorna, I am cracking up! I am personally under the impression that I would rock the A or the B… or whatever other letter society wants to stick on my chest so they can point at me and laugh… those that stand out are usually the ones making the difference!! Wear your B girl!!! 😉
Jul 30, 2011 @ 10:35:03
You sound like someone who knows the motives of sons. Good call! And good try. Oddly, I do feel slightly better…
Jul 30, 2011 @ 09:53:47
It it will make you feel better, I can stand in for your son. Here goes:
Dear Mom,
Please send money!
Thanks and hugs,
Your son
Jul 30, 2011 @ 08:16:11
Most of them say they’re too busy to spend time on the computer during their “off time.” Others are not technolgically inclined and would read my stuff in an instant if I printed it out. I’ve decided to stop hounding them. I’d rather spend my time encouraging other wonderful blogger like you and writing, writing, writing. If they jump on board, wonderful. If they choose to stay on the dock, that’s their choice. I just wish my son would make his presense known… but I have to let that one go, too.
Thanks, Molly!
Jul 29, 2011 @ 18:53:12
Okay – so why isn’t this genius and brialliant scribe appreciated by the home crew? Could be you’re surpassing expectations of a sociology professor by ta-tinging, wee-pinging and i-winging – seriously unique stuff – could this be a case of ‘tall poppy’ syndrome in the village? cheers catchul8r molly
Jul 29, 2011 @ 11:29:25
I love your image of typing while looking over your shoulder–all that activity in preparation for the intervention that the Villagers are planning! Villagers can be so judgmental…
Jul 29, 2011 @ 11:25:28
Technically, technical writing is writing, right? I think it would make a great blog topic and well worth the risk of a few eye-rolls. Maybe those eye-rolling people will thank us. I’m told exercising the eye muscles keeps the eyes healthier…;)
Jul 29, 2011 @ 11:22:11
Aw, I’m making you Mayor of my Village! Thanks for the life-time of encouragement and support.
Jul 29, 2011 @ 10:31:32
I think you should have a BE stiched to your laptop. Blogger Extraordinar. I love the humor, pics, and thought provoking insight. Keep going, the book is getting closer all the time.
Jul 29, 2011 @ 04:21:32
Oh dear – nothing worse than becoming a member of a community (Villagers) that is misunderstood. Though not sure I would classify my blogging as an extension of a developing writer. Professionally I’m a technical writer (just the facts, ma’am) and seriously envy those creative minds that convert their thoughts to words. Aha — that sounds like an upcoming blog post–technical writing. Should I risk another roll of the eyes when blogging? Sure, why not–I won’t be alone. Thanks for being there everyone!
Jul 29, 2011 @ 00:16:35
Lorna,
This is a subject that is so close to my heart …. AND … from the comments others, too.
I hesitate to mention the blog thing because on several occasions the eye rolling into the back of peoples heads has sent me looking for priests.
I feel like I have evil spiritual powers that are sending people into another dimension at the mere mention of the “B” word.
I thought I was seeking support from my friends and relatives only to learn that they are secretly talking about how to help me get past this issue I’m having.
MMmmmm …. not sure what issue they’re thinking I have but I’m watching carefully. It’s tough typing while looking over your shoulder all the time.
This is really a “RANT” post. GREAT question …
Namaste,
Isadora
Jul 28, 2011 @ 18:56:39
I love the way you think. I’m hoping that one day the Villagers will come to appreciate this medium as a valid way to express ourselves, not a silly waste of time (kind of like the people thought about the telephone when it was first invented!).
Jul 28, 2011 @ 18:53:03
At least I’m protected against most textual viruses and SPAM (Silly Prepositions and Modifiers) that would come from these textual relations…;)
Jul 28, 2011 @ 18:45:48
That’s what I’m talking about! It’s so frustrating and I don’t know what to do about it, except, of course, blog about it! Thanks for reassuring me that my misery is enjoying company.
Jul 28, 2011 @ 16:08:30
The other day a relative (who had perhaps only started reading my blog) said to me, “I really enjoyed what you said. You should be a writer!”
I replied, “I am a writer.” Bit I got the inference that writing a blog isn’t really the same as being a writer.
Jul 28, 2011 @ 14:06:57
Text appeal? Oh my! You do realize that your obvious text appeal puts you at risk for textual relations with strange folk who happen upon your blog from near and afar…
Jul 28, 2011 @ 11:41:14
Oh love love love this. I haven’t told a lot of people around me that I blog. Because, well I will be writing about them at some point 😉 I guess I should get a ‘B’ shouldn’t I? The sane ones have been informed.
And that is why I love the blogger community so much. We know we aren’t wasting our time, we know blogging isn’t all that addictive (well less than weed at least) and its amazing fun. To hell with those pitch-fork and torch bearers in your village, we have each other! One day when they find out that people across the oceans appreciate our work too, they’ll build temples for us 😛
Jul 28, 2011 @ 11:08:31
Hi Val! Glad you dropped in and thanks so much for commenting. I knew I couldn’t be alone in this general reaction to my new avocation. I want to shake people and tell them, “I’m a writer who blogs to develop my craft, not a blogger who drools!” Of course, I may release a bit a spittle in my enthusiasm, which would kind of negate my message… 😉 Hope you keep coming back!
Jul 28, 2011 @ 10:47:34
Free, you are so right! I feel so much more free to write the stories that have been waiting to be written BECAUSE of this blog. I wish others I care about could understand how liberating it is as a writer to have words that were once stuck inside come pouring out AND have instant feedback. Plus, I have come to know a whole community of writers from all walks of life who entertain me, make me think, and are simply delightful.
I was taught to share. All I want to do is share this magical world with people I love. It just isn’t happening…yet. Thanks for your comment. I’m glad to know that I’m not alone in this.
Jul 28, 2011 @ 10:39:27
Well, at least you have us…
Jul 28, 2011 @ 10:38:41
Picture my head hung in shame as I frantically stitch my Scarlet B on my bodice. I’ll make one for my lap top if you men-folk will feel safer from my obvious text-appeal. I really should be ashamed of myself. Someone shut me up!
Jul 28, 2011 @ 10:38:34
Love the post, what fun! I just surfed in from A Lighter Shade of Grey, and am glad I did!
Only a few people peer down their noses at my blogging interest… ah, habit… er, obsession. And the usual form is one of two, either “oh no here we go again” and that look which signifies that the person’s just about to turn off their brain (I’d love to know where the control for that is, wouldn’t you?) or “isn’t that what teenagers do?”
Jul 28, 2011 @ 10:24:38
Absolutely! And what’s not to love about immediate feedback and gratificaiton? Why or why can’t my Village see that? Perhaps I need a flaming torch to light their path…
Jul 28, 2011 @ 10:22:26
Hey, maybe that’s it! My Village thinks I’m going to out them. But if they would just read what I’m writing, they’s see I’m only outing myself (for the most part). You may be on to something there…
Jul 28, 2011 @ 10:20:30
If I didn’t have such a maniacial need for approval, I would like have the same attitude. But I really don’t want to be shunned by my Village. I think I need to seek counseling. No, wait. I can’t. I don’t have time. Too many stories to write for my blog. I’m doomed!
Jul 28, 2011 @ 10:17:45
I sure hope so. We are writers using this medium (rather than pen and paper)–that’s how I see it. But I know from “cocktail party talk” that a great many people misunderstand blogging as something of a waste of time. It’s really too bad. But I, too, wear my Scarlet “B” with honor and hope that these people will read my book (in which I will acknowledge all of my WordPress pals for lighting a fire in my rascally writer’s imagination) and say “Hey, I remember backing away from a conversation with her…”
Jul 28, 2011 @ 10:09:55
I shall my Scarlet “B” with pride! Thanks Ray.
Jul 28, 2011 @ 09:18:37
Hi Lorna, I blog to share viewpoints, knowledge and humor. I think you do it with grace and finesse. Keep it up you “BLOGGER”
Jul 28, 2011 @ 02:52:11
Oh no you’ve confirmed my worst fears about how bloggers are viewed by others. Being new to blogging I haven’t confessed to very many people but as this obsession to write seems to be staying with me I will wear my ‘B’ with pride. Maybe one day the critics and doubters will come to understand me?
Jul 27, 2011 @ 23:54:01
Absolutely I have friends and family who think I’m some vacuous ne’er-do-well for abandoning them and the intellectual stimulation they think they provide. I look at it this way – screw ’em!
Jul 27, 2011 @ 20:15:10
Love it. I have the “B” emblazoned on me from certain in-laws. It seems that they get nervous about me blogging for fear that I will bring out all their “shameful secrets” for the whole world to read.
Jul 27, 2011 @ 20:13:47
I think before I began blogging and learned its benefits, I thought of bloggers as hapless hipsters wasting large amounts of their time. As egotistical nut jobs, but I think there are some good, fun blogs. Also, I find it immediately gratifying unlike writing fiction. Writing a book, you have to wait years before someone can tell you they like it. With a blog, it takes only a few minutes for someone to click “like.” And that sort of immediate feedback and continuous readership makes me feel good.
Jul 27, 2011 @ 19:07:07
You wicked temptress! Luring the likes of someone like me, a married man, to your website, replete with haughtiness, flirtations, humor, and otherwise witty commentary! Scornful behavior indeed! Not only that, while I was possessed by that evil spell you put on me by reading your Blog, I was compelled to hit the like button. This is madness!
Scarlet B? You should lucky that the village elders do not insist your laptop be fitted with a medieval chastity device!
Jul 27, 2011 @ 17:09:31
I’m usually greeted with silence, so I don’t share. It makes me feel like I’m standing on an island. Alone. Which then, makes me feel somewhat weird. Since my relationship with ‘others’ is defined by blogging, computers, etc, I don’t feel like I’m in good company to share this other world I’m in.
Jul 27, 2011 @ 16:12:57
Thank you for this post Lorna. My son asked me if I was going through a mid life crisis. My wife views my posts with suspicion that my creative instincts threaten her privacy. Some folks are very supportive. I must admit that I enjoy telling the world, “This is who I am and I am not afraid of this!” It’s up to you who read my stuff to figure out how to deal with it. My thought is ” Free at last, free at last, Thank God almighty free at last!